As anyone who knows a teacher can tell you, the most difficult part is not the students, it's not even the paperwork, most of the time- it's the parents.
Now, I must preface this with the fact that in my two years as a teacher I have been blessed with AMAZING (classroom) parents. They have been kind, helpful, and caring. I still keep in touch with many of them today. (One even reads the blog!) Have I had a few that were not so hot? Sure. Heck, I even laughed during a parent conference once. And not because of a joke. He said he didn't understand why his child wasn't gifted, since he was highly gifted himself. That's funny crap, right? Oops. Overall though, I really haven't had any "horror" stories.
That being said, I am seeing them left and right this year! I have decided that the behavior of the kids is usually a direct reflection of the parent. Want to know why a student is disrespectful, talk to his mom for 5 minutes.
Today, a parent called the school and said that their child (who was in trouble yesterday for being disrespectful) wasn't being disrespectful by ignoring a teacher. He didn't say a word. That sweet little angel. So, how could he be disrespectful?
Thoughts? Anyone?
16 comments:
Ugh, I hear you! But in a different respect - I'm a school social worker who works with kids having academic difficulties, behavioral problems, and/or truancy issues. Everything they know...they get from their parents. How can you expect a student to come to school when their parents don't care whether they go or not? It's super frustrating. Thankfully I don't deal with parents all that much, but from my years working in foster care...oy. Yeah.
Hmmm...I am a peds nurse at a children's hospital and you are exactly right, most behavior is learned. My motto that I tell myself (so I don't go crazy and try to take all my little babies home with me) "You can not save the world, you are just one person. You can only say your prayers and put forth your best effort to make a difference in the lives of your patients" Literally, I have to tell myself that all the time, ha!
I really wish that parents could observe their children in the classroom undetected. Pick a day, throw Mum or Dad behind a 1way mirror and let them see the truth.
give it some time, maybe he will be back after 2 or 3 weeks being homeschool!! Every mother who think her kids are little angels tend to be sick and tired of those little angel if they are stuck with them too long! Just imagine being stuck with the kids all summer long and THEN can't even hope for him to go to school after 2 1/2 months because you have to homeschool?? Right!! Sorry, I can't pictures that myself, but then my kids know better that if they don't follow they are in trouble and that I do believe that even if they are angels (they are actually little monsters in disguise) ;-) Good luck with that!!
Momcrack. That's awesome.
Some people shouldn't be parents, is all I have to say. Good luck!
Almost forgot...you will be a great mother one day :-)
grammar check "because we was highly gifted"
I feel ya, I do. Again, the reason why I plan to never go back to teaching- parents.
Not a grammar issue, Laura. Just a typo. We = He.
Maybe this will be her punishment?
Mom crack... seriously funny. I am just hoping I wasn't one of "those" parents, but since I ask the question, I probably was! Yikes! Sorry to all you teachers out there! :Q
Seriously...mom crack? What a hoot! My Mom was a teacher for 32 years and MAN have I got parent stories. :o)
Not a teacher (lack that whole patience thing), but I have spent more than a few years as a coach of young girls aged 5-11 and I couldn't agree more.
Although I used to see the girls whose parents push them SO hard that the girls just can't handle it. THAT was almost just as bad as when they didn't care. I couldn't imagine dealing with that in something that actually matters like school!
I have friends who are teachers and they say the same thing - the parents make it the hardest! I'm so sorry, but teaching is such a high calling so good for you!
My sister teaches at the same private high school where we both went and she said that the parent's are outrageous. If their child doesn't have an A in her biology class they freak out. No parent wants to deal with their child EARNING a B in school. What is it with parents these days thinking that only praising things should be said about their child REGARDLESS of their actions or performance. If a teacher had ever called my parents and said I was disrespectful, I would have been in hot water, and my parents wouldn't have even asked for MY side of the story!
Yup. I have a ton of friends that teach... I actually wanted to teach for a few years. Then changed my major...
Anyway...
Let's hope, let's pray to GOD, that my child is better behaved at school than she is at home. She's sweet and my heart and all that, but she is a typical 3.5 year old... She's not BAD at home, per se... Just a bit sassy. And I totally think she learned it from that bad kid at school.
But, her teachers love her, rave daily about how sweet, loving and kind she is.... About how smart and funny she is, etc... It's not all learned. It can't be...
If she took after me, she'd be teaching the kids to smoke on the playground and sneaking beer in her little backpack... So don't always assume their actions are reflections on the parents. Just sayin'.
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